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Wedding Guidance



What to Do? A Bride's and Groom's Parent's Stressful Involvement - Wedding Guidance

This time in both your lives can be wonderful and stressful. Planning weddings are when the best and worst come out from those we love.

You’re blessed with in-laws who want to take part of their son's wedding. You are blessed to have both families wanting to be involved.

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You need to sit down with your husband-to-be and make a list of everything that needs to be taken care of for your wedding. Both of you need to organize a family meeting with both sides together in one room. Plan a nice, and hopefully, relaxing family dinner, but not in a restaurant. Feelings may be hurt, but if you don't take care of this now, just think how this is going to reflect on your marriage? Wouldn't you rather have all families together around the holidays than splitting your time between them? Then think about when the grandchildren come along? Which grandparent will try to out-do the other? Your mom is losing her focus on what is important, her daughter has found a wonderful man to share life together.

Remember, your wedding day is your wedding. Control takes the focus off what is truly happening during the wedding planning, bringing two people together in marriage. Your wedding planning is the start for you and your fiancée' to work as a team. This is supposed to be a happy time for you both. Your parents and your fiancée' parents are adults and need to stop the competition for both their children's happiness. Both sides need to offer their financial gift freely without strings attached.

After your fiancée and you have organized your list, you make the offer at the family dinner and allow each of them to decide what they would like to be responsible as part of their involvement.


Remember, remind them how blessed you both are to have them all in your life and involved in the planning of your wedding.


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An important article while planning or starting to plan your wedding - Avoid Wedding Debt!



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